Film notes: Before Midnight

My notes from watching the film Before Midnight:

— Natalia: “Like sunlight, sunset, we appear, we disappear. We are so important to some, but we are just passing through.”

— Celine: “We all get dragged through our parents’ lives.”

— Celine: “The world is fucked by unemotional, rational men deciding shit.”

— Celine: “But not knowing is not so bad. The point is to be looking, searching, to stay hungry.”

— Jesse: “You have to be a little deluded to be motivated.”

— Celine: “Women explore for eternity in the vast garden of sacrifice.”

— Jesse, on his and Celine’s relationship: “It’s not perfect, but it’s real.”

— Own notes: interesting points made in the film: how tough a potential lifelong relationship is; how much the man needs to sacrifice to help out the woman (well beyond what he initially expects); how important it is for the man to encourage the woman to continue to chase her dreams instead of being stymied by domestic duties; how women don’t feel the same pressure to have a certain amount of success by a certain age (b/c there are less women to compare against); how you wish time would slow down as you get older whereas when you were 20 you just wanted to get to being an adult as soon as possible; the risk of ambition against your family life as well as the relief if you don’t have to worry about money anymore (cancer example, where the person treasured life’s moments so much more); the daunting nature of having so much to learn about the world and life in general against the growing realization that you won’t have the time to learn it all; there are long-term consequences to impulsive decisions you make for love; the moments for true 1-on-1 conversation with no kids around disappear after you become a parent; also all of your memories are pinpointed in time based on what your kids were doing then; the only time you have to yourself is between when you leave your parents’ house and when you first have kids.